Here I am in this crazy world. I became a widower and a single father in a single moment of time. I lost my best friend, witness to my life, lover, and the mother to our children.
How does anyone ever get over something like that? Well, the short answer is that you don't ever get over it completely. But you learn to cope and survive. I read a post on a widow bulletin board that summed it up well. The person said that when your spouse dies you may still love them, but it isn't a living and growing love any more.
I was coping and surviving and then someone came into my life. I wasn't sure what that would be like but it wasn't anything like what I imagined. I dated and wondered if I would ever feel that spark that I had with BW. Was it Fate's desire that I only have one love in my life? Would I have lots of friendships and maybe even lovers over the years but never anyone that would have my heart while giving me theirs in return?
And when you find someone how do you know that they're the one and that you're in love? Is it when you talk to them and find their voice sweet, distracting, and always on your mind? Is it when you look into their eyes and realize that you see your love for them reflected back to you?
I think it is when you always want to be with each other because that's when you feel most complete, that's love.
Posted by bbarton at February 2, 2007 05:49 PM