ibeejd commented in a recent post that it was so good that my family is supporting me and how it didn't work out so well for a friend in a similar situation.
All the credit for this belongs to Beautiful Wife. When she was diagnosed with cancer, and then ultimately found out that she was going to die, she made sure that I knew she didn't want me to be alone. She was vocal about her wishes and the kids heard many of our conversations.
We've joked and teased about who I was going to date, when I was going to date, and acceptable dating activities. That I was ultimately going to date has never been a big shocker for them.
That all being said my children are wonderful and I've been sure to not take advantage of their desire to see my happy. I went on a handful of first dates that they never knew happened because I didn't think it important to immerse them in the minutiae of the dating life of their dad.
I told them that if it got serious, like bf/gf serious, that I would let them know, and I have.
Posted by bbarton at January 22, 2007 11:29 AMYour daughters are wonderful! And I think that is quite a testament to you and Beautiful Wife. :)
Posted by: heather anne on January 22, 2007 01:50 PMibeejd - You won't believe what you find the strength to say out loud when you're dying. Mary wanted nothing left unsaid, with any of us. She was a remarkable woman.
Heather Anne - Thanks! :)
Posted by: Bob on January 22, 2007 04:19 PM
I think thats an amazing thing!! I would hope that I could be as strong as she was if faced with the same situation. I, of course, would want my husband to move on and to be happy....it would just be kinda hard to say it out loud I think.
Posted by: ibeejd on January 22, 2007 12:28 PM