Everyone is concerned about BW and the conversation ultimately comes around to how the kids are handling it and then how am I doing too.
The prince and princesses all know the details of what is going on with BW. No mysteries and being left to wonder since they are old enough to understand the details of her condition.
Youngest Daughter has started to express herself in poetry and some of the pieces are not only moving, but are quite good too.
Middle Daughter likes to help, make tea, and I believe she talks it out a lot with her friends.
Oldest Daughter is off to college and spends most of her time with her boyfriend. I think she's trying to make a life so it is hard to come around here where there is a fight for life. She does call often and asks advice about things she never would have before of BW.
Son is off on his own too but likes to call and drop by to give moral support and also lift the spirits of his sisters.
I'm hanging in there since that's the only thing I can do. I have to be strong for everyone else since any weakness on my part could put everyone else into a depression or panic, so I don't. I have to keep things together here and logistically make sure the family stays on track.
The one problem relative that I've alluded to in email and on here was finally told to not call and that she is not welcome in our home. She called and asked what BW wanted or needed (meaning food) and I told her that what she really wanted was an apology for being treated so poorly on their special day out.
The offending relative said that she wasn't going to apologize and thought that BW owed her one!!!! What kind of person, even if they were totally in the right, wouldn't apologize knowing BW's condition and what is going on with her life. Hence, the banishment from hearth and phone with BW's full knowledge and approval.
I also spoke to Mother-in-Law and each of her siblings right after it happened so that they were aware of what I said, how I said it, and what my expectations are with my wife. And, three days later...still no apology... *sigh*
Posted by bbarton at January 31, 2006 08:45 AMIt's great that BW has such a supportive caring family in you and your children.
Posted by: Contagious on January 31, 2006 09:39 AMgood luck to you, love and hugs xxx
Posted by: nelly in the green forest on February 1, 2006 04:09 AMEven though it's so unfortunate, it sounds like you did what needed to be done. All of you need supportive family and friends around you now. No time or energy to waste on drains like that. Also, be sure to take some time for yourself to process and 'feel' what's going on. Even if it's just ten minutes here and there. In the long run, it'll make you that much better of a 'rock'.
Much love...
gees, that is pretty rude...
well, they say what comes around, goes around, so she better watch her back!
Posted by: Dawn (webmiztris) on February 1, 2006 01:25 PMFeel for your kids - having been there. I'm sure your strength helps so much for all of them including BTW. But families shouldn't have to go through this (Forget the rude one.)xx
Posted by: grannyp on February 2, 2006 01:56 PMKarma baby.
Posted by: kari on February 2, 2006 03:43 PMMy thoughts are with you. So glad you rid yourself of vile relative, does your wife need this right now? Honestly....
Posted by: Caroline on February 3, 2006 11:00 PMThanks for everyone's love, support, positive thoughts, and reminders of karma! :)
Posted by: Bob on February 4, 2006 02:27 PM
I'm so sorry that on top of your lovely wife and children, and you, having to go through all that a reletive isn't understanding and being rude. It sounds like it would make the situation seem all the more bitter.
Posted by: Christie on January 31, 2006 09:33 AMAnd for your own sanity - try to cry, scream, etc behind closed doors. It's not good to keep it all bottled up.