Beautiful Wife's family has been a burr under my saddle with their never-ending mantra that "We should be going to Dana Farber."
We explained that we've physically been there before and that our doctors get a second opinion from them on each step of BW's care. There's no value to us actually going there since what needs to be done can be done 20 minutes from our home instead of 90 minutes.
BW had a big blow-up with her psycho bitch sister (like she needs that) about the whole Dana Farber thing and I thought it was finally laid to rest.
We go over to her mother's house for dinner and poker last night and just as we're getting ready to leave her mother mentions that there is some cancer place in Maryland. She says that we can go on the web or maybe give them a call. I said, "Oh great, so this is going to be the next big thing now that you can't use Dana Farber any more?"
I grabbed my coat and suggested that we all make our way home because I was WAY too irritated to stay any longer.
Posted by bbarton at January 16, 2006 09:47 AMthis reminds me of how my folks were when randy was un/underemployed. they were constantly telling him to go work for the post office or be a bank teller. no matter how many times or different ways we tried to tell them that he only wanted to work in his chosen industry. we knew they were just trying to be helpful, so after awhile we just had to tune them out.
Posted by: heidi on January 16, 2006 02:23 PMI can't imagine the stress this puts on you, like you need it right now. I know they think they are helping but I just don't get how they just can't see the toll it's taking on you. Hang in there - for what it's worth I think you are handling this amazingly well considering the circumstances. Thinking of you guys.
I am so sorry you're having famiy troubles on top of all the stuff that's happening to your lovely wife.
I wish I knew what to say- but giving virtual hugs and such doesn't seem to make much sense in the help department.
Kari - If only I could get them to do that!
Heidi - If their advice was directed at me it would be fine, upsetting Mary crosses the line.
Leigh - Thanks, Leigh.
Christie - It is the thought that counts.
Posted by: Bob on January 17, 2006 12:14 AMBob, take no notice. Just do your thing.
Posted by: grannyp on January 17, 2006 03:32 AMFor me, the hardest thing has always been wanting to help but being frozen in not knowing HOW to help, wanting to let them know they're loved but not knowing how to let them know. It sounds stupid, I know (after all, why can't you just say it or do it?) In knowing that they're suffering in some form, I feel that so often people don't like to be fussed over and therein lies the quandry and hesitation.
Maybe it's their way of dealing with their own grief/fears/stress over Mrs. Bob's illness?
Peace, rest, and strength to you~
Posted by: Jim on January 20, 2006 02:49 AM
Everyone wants to help huh? Well I say HUGS work wonders. Tell them to MYOB!!! Mind your own business.
Posted by: kari on January 16, 2006 11:08 AM